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She Pays, You Watch: Trading the Valentine’s Day Movie for?

It sounds like a movie super snooze fest to you but know that your significant other is dying to see the new Valentines Day Movie, probably on V-Day! What to do? She is giving you the Fandango movie vibe.  Mooning over Ashton.  Egging you on – day after day!  The good news: movie day doesn’t hit until a week after Super Bowl day.  The bad news: no Super Bowl day as an excuse not to go to this film; you’ll just miss a college basketball game or two and not even the NCAA tournament.   I don’t want to hear about hockey.  I married a Canadian.  


So what’s a guy to do? Take her to the movie or not?  First, we must understand what makes the movie so compelling to women besides its obvious star power?  If we use our fMRI imaging and look deep into the cerebral cortex of a woman, what do we find?  Hmm.  Images of hearts beating together like metronomes.  White chocolate truffles.  Soft blood-red roses.  Lingering  kisses.  Spooning in bed.  Romantic walks-and-talks along the river. Oh oh . . . are all of these in the movie?  I know it takes your breath away.  Well, there are sure to be some if not all of these very images in this movie.  Her inner life becoming manifest on the silver screen with her boyfriend next to her!  We are talking mega doses of oxytocin, the cuddling hormone, getting released under these circumstances.  And who might be the beneficiary of this gushing?  Why the fine fellow who took her to see the movie!  Okay, so still not convinced that you should subject yourself to potential movie drivel?


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To help you get over the hump, here are five reasons why you should most definitely take her to see the movie either on V-day or another day:


  1. You can show her that you are actually thinking about next steps in the relationship.  Kind of, anyway.
  2. It almost completely discharges your V-Day gift obligations.  Simply add some roses or chocolate to the movie and poof!  You are done for the day.  And you don’t have to sweat it any more.
  3. While watching the movie, she will probably put her hand on your thigh or an even more interesting place….
  4. You will be like hunky English actor, Ed Westwick, who plays the womanizer on Gossip Girl.  He says,   “I’m not a player.  I’m a romantic.  I’m going to get a tattoo that says ‘I heart romance.’”  (
  5. The movie has not only Anne Hathaway, but the two Jessica’s (Alba & Biel) in it.  C’mon be honest with yourself.
  6. (OK, OK, 6 reasons) She went to see the Avatar movie with you and you probably picked the day.  And didn’t even leave after the first hour of this 2 1/2 hour movie.


Bottom line: Take her to see the V-Day Movie.  Either on V-Day or another day . . . but do it!  This is a movie viewing  investment with significant ROI.  And you will thank me for it!




Valentine’s Day Movie Plot


The Valentine’s Day Movie deals with casually intertwining stories of the heart that take place over the course of one Valentine’s Day.


An on-leave army officer named Kate (Roberts) is a passenger on a flight from Iraq to Los Angeles when she meets Holden (Bradley Cooper), a gay man whose lover is a closeted football player (Eric Dane).  The owner of a florist shop, Reed (Ashton Kutcher) proposes to his girlfriend, Morley (Alba), while learning his best friend, Julia (Jennifer Garner), has a boyfriend named Harrison (Patrick Dempsey) who turns out to be married.  An assistant named Liz (Anne Hathaway) is working at the biggest movie/talent agency in town and is dating a mailroom assistant in the movie/talent agency, Jason (Topher Grace).  Julia’s mother, Estelle (Shirley MacLaine) is a happy retiree who must reveal an affair from long ago to her husband, Edgar (Hector Elizondo).  Their granddaughter (Emma Roberts) is going to have sex with her boyfriend at her high school, where Tyler Harrington (Taylor Lautner) and Samantha Kenny (Taylor Swift) are athletic teenagers who are lovers and in deep.  Meanwhile, a movie publicist named Kara (Biel) is seemingly alone with no date on Valentine’s Day working for her movie boss, Kelvin Briggs (Jamie Foxx), with whom she falls for.  Oscar-winning actress Kathy Bates makes an appearance as a “relationship therapist.”  Joe Jonas voices the dog of Alba’s character Morley in the movie.


Valentine’s Day Movie Main Cast (in alphabetical order)


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Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling author of “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Dating and Relationship Advice Newsletter.

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