( Love, Sacrifice, Suffering, Death in a Jail, & other ideas … )
Many of us have written about how much Valentines Day sucks in both professional[i] and trade journals[ii]. No need to rehash the ideas and meaning behind the ridiculous commercialism of this Hallmark-generated holiday. But I will anyway: the unhappiness women feel when their man comes up small, yada, yada, yada. In short, (sorry about the penis jokes) many people have argued that one of the best ideas on this subject is to do away with this crass V-Day holiday altogether.
But I don’t agree. I believe that we need to get back to the true meanings and origins of V-Day and come up with some new ideas to make it more interesting & less commercial. So, what are these new V-Day ideas?
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Now back to V-Day. It’s based on the story of St. Valentines sacrifice, suffering and death in a jail[iii]. Ok, so we won’t deal with any new V-Day ideas based on the whole death thing. But some new ideas based around honoring the sacrifices and suffering is another matter entirely. So, I propose some new ideas for V-Day that are based around couples achieving gainful suffering by walking a mile in each others boots.
Therefore, in the true spirit of V-Day, he spends the whole day diving into this batch of new ideas – doing these 7 KEY female activities.
And she spends the whole day diving into this batch of new ideas – doing, well, these 7 KEY male activities.
Using these new V-Day ideas, by the end of the day (the newly-designed Valentines Day), couples will be too tired to “do” it with each other. But they can take comfort on V-Day knowing they are part of that elite group celebrated by Gladwell in Outliers.[iv]
[i] Kirschner, D. A. & S., February, 2009. “It’s worse than Christmas Day: Why Valentines Day Sucks.” Journal of Applied Psychological Obfuscation, 214, pp. 1-95.
[ii] Kirschner, D.A. February, 1895. “Take this Valentine and Shove It: A New Look.” The Prairie Ladies’ Home Journal, page 1 and a little bit on the back.
[iii] According to one myth, St. Valentine was martyred for marrying young men (to each other?) instead of obeying the Roman Emperor’s command forbidding them to marry. There are, according to wiki, numerous martyrs named Valentine. Here’s one of many ideas for V-Day that we did not publish: do not name your kid, Valentine.
[iv] Upon further peer review, it appears that these new ideas for V-Day do not appear in Outliers.
The Early Medieval acta of either Saint Valentine were excerpted by Bede and briefly expounded in Legenda Aurea. According to that version, St Valentine was persecuted as a Christian and interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius II in person. Claudius was impressed by Valentine and had a discussion with him, attempting to get him to convert to paganism in order to save his life. Valentine refused and tried to convert the Emporor to Christianity instead. Because of this, he was executed. Before his execution, he is reported to have performed a miracle by healing the blind daughter of his jailer.
Legenda Aurea still providing no connections whatsoever with sentimental love, appropriate lore has been embroidered in modern times to portray Valentine as a priest who refused an unattested law attributed to Emperor Claudius II, allegedly ordering that young males remain single. The Emperor supposedly did this to grow his army, believing that married males did not make for good soldiers. The priest Valentine, however, secretly performed marriage ceremonies for young males. When Claudius found out about this, he had Valentine arrested and thrown in jail. In an embellishment to The Golden Legend provided by American Greetings, Inc. to History.com and widely repeated, on the evening before Valentine was to be executed, he wrote the first “valentine” himself, addressed to a young girl variously identified as his beloved, as the jailer’s daughter whom he had befriended and healed, or both. It was a note that read “From your Valentine.”
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